I love the movie Mean Girls. Mostly for this reason:
Today, however…..we are going to roll down another road….you know, a bumpy one:
And by “Regina George,” I mean YOU.
Raise your hand if you have ever been personally victimized by YOURSELF.
I have learned that I can play the victim like nobody’s bidness. I am excellent at it, and I didn’t even know it all these years! Huh, I guess we can call that a talent? Er….is butter a carb?
What I mean is this – at times, I catch myself saying statements like the following:
- I can’t believe it. So and so JUST STARTED working out and can already press a 16 kilo kettlebell and I have been working out for years and that’s my working weight. WTF is wrong with me?
- I’m so busy, there is absolutely no time to workout this week. I only have 20 minutes today, and then no time the rest of the week. Why bother today if the rest of the week will not happen anyway? Why am I always the busy one, and everyone else has time to workout?
- I can’t believe this is happening to me. This type of shit never happens to anyone else, why is it ALWAYS me?
Ick. I’m embarrassed to even write this stuff.
After a 10 week course with Jill Coleman, I know a LOT about how I play the victim. I honestly didn’t realize it. Those statements above are examples, but I found myself saying things like that (internally) a TON.
You know what stinks about letting yourself be a victim in your own life though? When you are the victim, you give up your control in the situation. You literally choose to be the victim so you don’t take action (or control) to remedy your situation.
Uh, you know what happens when you always give up control in the situation? You NEVER get OUT of the situation. You will ALWAYS find yourself circling back to that situation because you have chosen NOT to DEAL with it.
If you are reading this, you already know this isn’t good, right? I mean, it stinks when you are playing the victim and you don’t really realize it. You don’t realize you are giving up your control. You don’t realize you are settling into this situation you are in for the long haul. You don’t realize that unless you step up to the plate and ask your self “What the flip am I gonna DO about it?” and then TAKE THAT ACTION, you will always find yourself in some situation, STILL in that situation that you are always in and no one else is EVER in.
My statement above, you know, the “I’m too busy to work out one” is a GREAT example. When I used to tell myself “I’m too busy this week”……”busy” meant Facebooking, dorking around with poor time management, or making up reasons why I didn’t have time to workout. So I TOOK ACTION. I’m no longer too busy. Days of Our Lives sometimes doesn’t get watched the same day, you know? Or I get my ass out of bed EARLY to get my workout done. Or, I just plain old schedule my errands and days better so I can fit in a decent block of workouts each week. It doesn’t really matter…..other than I TOOK ACTION. I changed my mindset as to how I approached this little “I’m too busy” phenomenon. I’m not too busy to work out and take care of myself. No one is. It’s a choice.
And my final victim statement above – the one about “why is this always happening to me?” Let me be honest here. Things don’t JUST HAPPEN to me. Things happen to everyone. If I choose to continue to always look for the things that always happen to me, what do you think I will ALWAYS see? If I choose to react to things that happen to me with action and ideally a positive attitude, you know….we all know the ending to this scenario. Things will OBVIOUSLY go a little more smoothly, right?
So what say you?
Raise your hand if you have ever been personally victimized by Regina George (and by “Regina George” I mean YOU)?