So, yup. We are having another little one! Nearly 18 weeks here! I’m excited for another kiddo, I’m NOT excited to be going through a pregnancy, as awful as that sounds. More on that in a bit 🙂
I intended to write this blog like weeks ago, but……time gets away from me 🙂 And because, last time I was pregnant with no kids and could focus on being pregnant. This time? Have a kid, still have to mom it, and work my biz, and wife it. So I’m pregnant, but it’s like sort of just there right now, a bit of an afterthought at times 🙂
What I thought I’d do is summarize workouts and stuff “now” as compared to pre-pregnancy, as a means to show what changes for me when pregnant.
First off, I feel MUCH more prepared this second time through. Mostly because, well…we already have a kid, so there isn’t time to “focus on being pregnant.” There’s only all day long where you are doing life and raising a kid, so there is NOT time to focus on allllll the details. It’s basically, wake up, get through the day, and crash early. Ha! But let’s be honest, that’s not all that different from not-pregnant me. Possibly the only difference is the fact that I go to bed 45 minutes earlier now (8:15PM) versus 8:45PM. I’m still a 90-year-old at heart, and damn proud of that.
While I feel fortunate to be going through a healthy pregnancy for the second time, I also need to be honest. I don’t enjoy being pregnant. It’s not “magical” for me. I feel awkward and very much out of touch with how I usually move, and pretty much lose steam after 3PM each day. And I’m normally a person who loves to eat and cook….and those things don’t exactly give me jazz hands right now, they pretty much feel lackluster. I feel like a jerk even saying I don’t enjoy pregnancy, but I’d also feel like a fraud if I was all “this is such a wonderful time!” So there you have it :). Is it week 40 yet?
I miss Oktoberfest beer selections. Period. Next fall, I’m taking myself on a fall brewery tour, and celebrating Oktoberfest RIGHT.
Food is sometimes cool, sometimes gross. Mostly, it’s a pain in the ass to eat after 3PM because I feel bloated. Everything except for most fruit and some hard cheese and crackers was gross through like week 12. Veggies were poison for a long time. The taste of food has come back, but eating a lot is NOT thrilling to me….and if I eat too much, there’s a good chance I’m gonna get the gags. Right now, I’m kind of on a puke for a couple days streak, and then good for a couple days. So…some days I eat two lunches or two breakfasts….depending on if I throw the first one up :). So there’s that! If this one is anything like being pregnant the first time, this will continue through like week 25-30. I lost some weight in the first trimester, and it is coming back, but slowly.
Lifting has been consistent, to be honest, because even during the yucky early months, it was a nice distraction from feeling yucky. Although those first few weeks, my workouts felt geriatric compared to my normal. However, I’m settling in, the weights are getting heavier, but I’m finding out that my body really likes reps right now, in the 8-15 range. So of course, the loads I’m lifting reflect that. My brain does NOT enjoy this rep range, because it reminds me continuously of cardio. I do not have energy for those fun heavy singles, triples, and sets of five. Nope. No way. I’m really having fun learning my way through some seriously prenatal friendly core training. I’m taking my core and pelvic floor SERIOUSLY. I enrolled in a course with Jessie Mundell, GGS pelvic floor specialist, and am learning tons on how to safely train PLUS take care of core + floor. Let me make this awkward for you….and give you the BEST deadlift cue of your life. When you hinge back, and have your breath dialed in, before you pull…..”grab a bean” between your anus and vagina, THEN exhale and complete the lift. This.Will.Change.Your.Life. I am grabbing ALL the beans, and this shit works, yo. I didn’t really focus on core and floor specifically last pregnancy, and I paid the price after delivery. I’m focusing on it in a big way this time, and actually studying up on pre and post natal lifting for my clients. This shiz is important, yo. I’m happy to report that my vagina does NOT feel like it is going to fall out, I do NOT have the workout pees, I don’t have pain anywhere really, aside from the odd growing pains type stuff. I AM giving my chiropractor a run for her money with my ever-changing pelvis, though :). She needs to be challenged though, so this is good.
I’ve picked up a serious walking routine. Last spring, I was ruck walking….or carrying a 30 pound backpack while walking. It was super fun, and I took a break for the summer because it sorta sucked when it got hot. I was looking forward to picking it up again this fall, but to be honest, adding 30 pounds on top of relaxed joints and stuff probably isn’t a good idea. So, regular walking it is. During early weeks, I was focusing on about four walks a week – 1-2x moderate pace, 1x interval walks, and then a long walk on the weekends. Now, I’m pretty much keeping my walks to about 3-4 per week of 30 minute FAST or interval walks, depending on what I have energy for. And, I’ve been out on the trails a few times for some long stuff, and that feels good too.
I’m pretty sure my husband is excited to have his wife back after pregnancy. I’m pretty sure I’m a little crazy, and he is really kicking ass in the evening routine, and the early morning routine at our house. Many nights, he and Emma tuck ME into bed for the night. I need to give him more kudos, because this does NOT go unnoticed.
And, I feel like this is important to chat about, at least in MY pregnancy, so I’m writing it here. I had FABULOUS prenatal care last pregnancy, but showing up to delivery was a complete shitshow. Like, it was not a good situation, and I’ve been carrying it around with me for 3.5 years. I had intended on writing my daughter’s birth story, and didn’t because it was a shitty experience. I did go back to my six-week check-up, and I did not go back after, until finding out we were pregnant again. To be honest, I was pissed, scared of doing it again, and frustrated by the whole thing. And my husband knows it…he was in delivery and went through it too. So of course, finding out we were pregnant, it was already that heavy weight in the back of my mind…..like, I’m not doing this shit again like last time. I did book my first prenatal appointment, and in the meantime, we went to visit a local birth center, which ended up being friggin’ fabulous, but also friggin’ out of network, and possibly a little financially crazy for our family, although we are still talking about it. At my first prenatal appointment with my normal midwife from last pregnancy, I pretty much showed up with sky-high blood pressure, and had a meltdown freakout session on her, about last time, and not putting myself through that again. I was balling, SHE ended up balling, and we had a really freaking good conversation about it. She basically backed me up and validated everything I was feeling and was basically like “You need to have a friggin’ rocking birth, none of this shitshow business.” Ten minutes after the conversation, we re-checked my blood pressure, and it had dropped to almost normal. This conversation needed to happen about 3.5 years ago, and I know that now, as hindsight is always 20/20. Since this appointment, I’ve been back two more times, seen the other two midwives, had the same conversation, and we are all on the same page about birth. No more shitshow. My husband and I are in control, and will not be going into birth #2 blindsided or through the same experience as birth #1. I’m happy to report, my blood pressure was a lovely 110-78 this last appointment, and I can tell I’m not having crazy anxiety about this all. Bottom line, STICK UP FOR YOURSELF. This is YOUR body, and YOUR pregnancy. I will say, that if we deliver in the hospital, and everything goes well….I will be “that patient” pushing the envelope and getting out of the hospital in 24 hours or less :).
All in all, week 18 is here. I’m happy that we are going to raise another little. I’ll be happier when the little is on the OUTSIDE, though. It is pretty cool to have Emma talk about her little baby brother or sister though. And have her ask questions, and ask if the baby is kicking, and stop to give it a hug sometimes.