When you begin making changes – whether food or fitness related, or really…..ANY change in your life – things are new and shiny. Doing new things and creating new habits is easy because it’s different and fun.
Then the bog hits. Maybe after two or three weeks, or even a month. It’s not new and shiny anymore. Sometimes it actually seems like the LAST thing you want to do. Or, “my life is really busy today, so I’m putting off my <insert new change here> and I’ll get to it tomorrow.” Except, you know what happens tomorrow. Your new change… DOESN’T happen. Because it’s still not exciting tomorrow.
I know how this feels. You feel like everyone else has it easy, and makes it look effortless. Why is it so hard for you? Why can everyone else get fit/eat well/get a sweet job/have an exciting life and you can’t?
The difference is that the people who you THINK have it easy….they just do it anyway. They stick to their change. Even after the new and shiny wears off. They made it a part of their life, not just something they did when they felt like it.
Ha, I’m writing this at a point when I have ZERO motivation to train this week (shark week and all), but I’m committed to getting that dang RKC title, so I guess I’m writing this for myself. I have plenty of “reasons” why not to – the cert is a long way off, my hands and grip are tired, I’m a little sore, I’m busy (actually I’m not so busy….I am just great procrastinating), I should spend more time cleaning my house (true), and more time with my family (true), and more time doing x,y,z instead of training.
Doesn’t everyone have a million reasons why they can’t? But then what was the little spark that made them want to make a change in the first place?
The silver lining of having the bog and NOT FEELING LIKE IT BUT DOING IT ANYWAY…..are those fantastic times where those changes you made/make feel effortless. The times when they are easy. You will appreciate them more.
Here are a few things I consider when things get rough and you don’t FEEL like it.
- Does this make sense? First, and foremost….are you doing something you actually WANT to change, and something that is sustainable? This is vital. If you are doing something because everyone else is doing it, and you don’t REALLY want to, DON’T.
- If you answered yes to #1, then maybe setting a schedule of practicing that change is necessary for a bit. What I mean is, for me….I have a “training schedule.” This schedule is when I train, whether or not I’m motivated. I can adjust what I do during each training according to how my body feels – hell, if I really don’t FEEL like it because I’m super sore or worn out…maybe it’s just a good foam rolling, mobility, and stretching session….but I STILL kept my appointment with myself during that time for it’s intended purpose. Get it?
- Make easy wins. Do a few things when you start that are super easy and make you feel amazing. Chances are, once you are feeling like a boss, you will keep going.
- Do the hard shit. Once you got a few easy wins under your belt in your session, do the shit you don’t want to do which is why you’ve been dreading this appointment with yourself in the first place. Just knock it out and get it done. Then move onto more fun shit. For me….these are the things I’m not good at and that make me realize I’m not good at them. But in order to get better, of course I need to do them, right?
- Take vacations. Maybe this isn’t applicable right in the beginning when you are starting something new….because you probably want to create some sort of habit of doing this new thing. However, after you have a couple of months or so under your belt, take a break. Completely. For a few days or a week or so. Like any vacation, when you take a break….you usually come back refreshed and relaxed, and with new ideas or a new appreciation.
I feel like saying “I’m not motivated” is sometimes the worst kind of excuse. Motivation is limited, and doing things only when you WANT to do them is sometimes a recipe for disaster. I mean, if I paid my bills only when I “felt like it”……well, let’s be honest….I’d have a lot more pairs of cute jeans and some pretty angry people who I owed money to.
Shit, I’m now re-reading this post, and realize I don’t clean my house a lot because I “don’t feel like it.” I probably need to schedule some time each day/week to get this under control. Ha! Jokes on me!