I am rambling here. I have no super awesome message to share, this is really a way for me to gather my own thoughts on something I’ve been sorting out recently. I think sharing it might give you a chance to share input that I don’t think of. I don’t think this is an ABSOLUTE, in fact, I’m trying to steer myself away from absolutes these days because I don’t deal well with absolutes…..they make me feel like I need to rebel.
Anyways, here we go.
I feel (oh lawd, here we go with *feelings*) like I need to put some of my “non-negotiables” together in a little book that is not written, but mostly in my head, called Amanda’s Moral Compass. I also feel like this needs to go with a strict subtitle that says “I reserve the right to change my mind about things, and things are not all black and white all the time.”
Shit would be so much easier if there were just black and white situations, instead of those pesky little shades of gray, but that’s not the point right now.
For instance, I have three little non-negotiables surrounding my food and fitness:
- Train with purpose 3-4 times per week (while respecting my body).
- Move often in a non-workout sort of way.
- Eat mindfully, no GUILT.
Cool enough, right? Those seem simple enough, and certain instances do come up, but I also circle back to those three things. They are sort of my guide. When I follow my guide, I feel good! YAY! If I get off track, I come back to my guide. YAY! My guide is simple, and yet it is just enough for me. I don’t like rigidness (is that a word?).
Whether or not I have a list for the rest of my well-being probably doesn’t matter to some, but for me, I think it would be helpful. Because having a guide like this allows me to sort of ‘check in’ with myself. As new age-y as that sounds, you know what? As you deal with life and weird shit that happens some times, a little guidance is never a bad thing in my book.
Here are some of my thoughts on priorities in no specific order:
- Days start and end with family. Always come back to family. Family is key in my book.
- Feeding things that add value to my life and starving things that don’t (do more of the value stuff, very little of the other things).
- Freely include my tribe in my time. Guard my time preciously with non-tribers.
- Choose to have a relationship with God.
- Be intentional. Say it if you mean it. Do it if you mean it. When you do it or say it, mean it and don’t apologize for it.
- Learn more.
- Always be flexible.
- Choose gratitude.
This is my list RIGHT NOW of things that are important to me. When I read over them, they sound cool and ideal. Getting right down to it, these things all take practice and I really want a way to manage them – I think they are so important, and I think they drive everything that I do.
My sister in iron, Jen, talks frequently about her self-care routine with me and what she does to feed those things and has a way of ‘checking in’ with herself. It is great to know a little bit about this because I see little bits and pieces every so often. I now know how she guards her time and prioritizes…..at least some things. She also has her own little set of core values (sort of like this little list of non-negotiables) that help her prioritize her life (I’ve already asked Jen to write about those things in the future, so I’m sure you will be seeing them down the road).
However, I’d love to know if any of YOU have your own list – written down or in your head – that define you or guide you. I would love for you to share them with me. I think that is SO interesting and important.
My strongest feeling here is that if you live in line with your “truth” or your non-negotiables, you are YOU. You don’t do things that you hate just to people please your way through life, or because you feel guilty if you don’t, or because it is so fashionable to appear “busy” doing “things.” You do things because you WANT to. You don’t compromise yourself or your truth.
Oh man, this is a rambler.
So tell me, do you have your own guide? Please share some thoughts on it if you do. I think a series of guest posts would be neat on this very topic to see how different people prioritize differently!