Eating, eating, eating. It’s so fun. Except, maybe it’s not fun if you feel like you keep spinning your wheels – either on the latest diet allllll day errrrdayyyyy 365, OR like you can’t quite get a grasp on what to eat to fuel AND enjoy, or find that balance.
As a nutrition coach, I’ve effed myself over PLENTY back in my day. To be honest, many times unintentionally…..but…..I’ve gone down the rabbit hole too and clung to the next-big-thing meal plan that I could start Monday.
Because of MY history with eating, I am pretty quick to spot it all around me when I see it or hear it in passing conversation, too. And, running a gym of lovely, strong, women….well, I hear tons of things about eating. And coaching nutrition, I hear lots of stories like mine PLUS new ones.
Because nutrition can get messy, with all the feelings that may or may not come with it.
So, I’m sharing with YOU today all the big ways that I see that you might just be effing over your nutrition game. Because I’m a firm believer in creating awareness around things that you want to helps you CHANGE things should you need to. I mean, you can’t know how to get where you want to go if you don’t know where you are, right?
So, let’s take a closer view to these sneaky ways you might be screwing yourself over:
- Riding the wild ride between extremes. This one I would REALLY call being “low” anything (fat, carb, calorie, etc) OR, REALLY RIGID with what you “allow yourself to eat.” Typically, motivation is high when first starting this, but then….you do it for awhile, and you find yourself wanting to eat something that ISN’T low or ISN’T rigid. Perhaps you are able to willpower your way around eating that thing for a bit – a few days, a few weeks – until you can’t any longer. And then you find yourself off the rails – maybe for a day, or a few days, a weekend, a week. Until you feel like a failure and “get back on plan.” Only the plan is the EXTREME opposite. If you find yourself swinging wildly between these two extremes, my guess is, you know what you are doing isn’t sustainable, but you just aren’t sure how to go about changing it. So, you find yourself……….
- Clinging to a diet plan. This is probably a way of eating that has a name – clean, Paleo, Atkins, IIFYM (if it fits your macros), flexible dieting, ketogenic, a cleanse or detox, any MLM approach, the 21 day fix, being super specific about counting of any kind, etc. You think that by “just following this plan” will get you results that last permanently. Maybe. But….the problem with a plan is that most people approach them as temporary. And because of that, they didn’t really invest mental energy in learning HOW to each, they just did what the diet said, had some success, and then went back to their old ways once it was “over.” And it’s cool for a bit, until weight starts to come back on. And they panic, and want to “do the diet again because it worked the first time”……so they…..
- Re-diet the diet. Time to get back on that plan, yo! It worked once, it will work again. Until you start doing it, and realize, hey, it’s not really working as well this time. Because….you’ve been yo-yoing back and forth between diet to non-diet. And your body is starting to take notice and pay attention. And it doesn’t WANT to play this game anymore. Because you are kind of messing with your hormones, your hunger signals, and a whole host of other things each time you diet and then slide back. And your body is starting to say effffffffff YOU. So you…..
- Say eff it, and eat whatever you want. We know eating whatever we want all the time isn’t the answer either. Perhaps you don’t notice it creeping in, but it’s more breakfast pastries than what makes you feel good. Or more beer that you REALLY need or even want for that matter. Or….trying to justify your food choices by doubling down on exercise even HARDER to “make up for it.” There’s a whole host of ways that this one can happen.
It’s a cycle, yo! And a not fun one. You might identify with one of these, or even ALL of these. I’ve effed myself over every stinking one of these ways PLUS some others that I don’t have time to write about today.
What helped me was to say eff diets in general and sorta figure out eating with the help of some key nutrition habits. I could no longer let myself cling to safety in another plan, or diet, or being super strict, because….well…it wasn’t freaking working anymore. I FINALLY committed to doing the hard work of really just learning HOW to eat in a habitual way that made me feel good and that I didn’t have to think about so much anymore. Simple? Oh hell yes. Easy? Hell to the no!
This did NOT happen overnight. It happened over daily practice that turned into weeks, which turned into months, which turned into years.
So, I FEEL YOU on wanting to cling to a new diet, but I also want to tell you…..it’s SO MUCH BETTER this way. Yup, I took the marathon versus sprint route, BUT, I trust myself and my food choices now. AND, I’m confident enough to say I can tweak things should I want to, depending on my goals….WITHOUT heading back into all those self-sabotaging ways. I have so much extra mental energy that is NOT spent on food choices, and is instead invested in my LIFE.
Drop me a comment and tell me how you are marathoning it right now versus sprinting with regard to nutrition. I’d love to hear :)