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Why You Shouldn’t Obsess For 80 Days (A Beachbody Rant)

Ah yes.  Today is the day.  The day I’m done being Switzerland about Beachbody.

I’m going to rant about the “latest and greatest” Beachbody program….80 Day Obsession.

AKA another way for people to get sucked into the mentality that fitness (and nutrition, if you’re a “fixer”) must be BALLS TO THE WALLS in order for it to count.

Let’s start with the name of the program.

80 Day Obsession.  AKA 80 Days Of Disordered Thinking About Yourself, Your Fitness, And Your Food.

I don’t know about you, but 80 days is a long ass time for me to be obsessive about my workouts and my nutrition.  Hell, one day is too long to be obsessive about those things.  I’m more like….let’s lift a few times a week, enjoy our eating, and then still do the mom-ing, and the working and not just be so damn focused on “pushing play” for the sake of pushing play to say “I was obsessed for 80 days.”

There doesn’t seem to be room for growth with an 80 day obsession.  There just seems to be room for starting a program, being crazy about it for 80 days, and then stopping.  Then what happens?  Are you “indifferent” for 80 days beyond that?

According to Beachbody’s website, under FAQ’s….in order for someone to be successful with the 80 day obsession….

….You need discipline and dedication—and a willingness to work hard for maximum results! To reshape your body in a specific way like this requires an obsession to detail, including following the Timed-Nutrition Eating Plan and giving your all in every workout. It’s not easy, but don’t worry, Autumn and the cast will be right there with you, working just as hard!

To reshape your body requires an obsession to detail, people!  We aren’t doing it good enough anymore!  Plus, that timed nutrition eating plan!  I mean….

80 Day Obsession….another way of saying if you don’t prioritize nutrition and workouts to the hilt and live and die by them, you just aren’t good enough.

Here’s the thing.  It isn’t *just* about the 80 Day Obsession.

It’s that it isn’t good enough anymore to incorporate some strategic workouts and figuring out how the hell how to like how you eat after being on a diet for eleventy billion years.  Nope, now we gotta OBSESS.  And that really chaps my ass.  Because, well, isn’t the point of fitness and food to ENHANCE our life?  Not BE our life?

A quick question that I like to ask myself when I’m considering a new program or a nutritional approach….

Am I willing to do this for the rest of my life?  

I mean, because, if I’m not, well…where the hell are those “hardcore” results gonna go after the 80 obsessive freaking days?

Perhaps a better way to do this, Beachbody, is to help people find the intersection between where they can eat in a sustainably healthy fashion, work out in a sustainably healthy fashion, AND FUNCTION AND THRIVE IN THEIR LIFE IN A SUSTAINABLY HEALTHY FASHION (yes, those are shouty effing capitals).  Where is THAT program, Beachbody?  Where are THOSE “coaches” helping people do THAT?

*awkward crickets*

Oh that’s right.  There aren’t sales in those products.  There won’t be turnover in those products from the buyers needing to find “the next best program” after they obsess for 80 effing days.

How does a company in the multi billion dollar fitness and diet industry generate revenue?

Hint: they DON’T, if their target market suddenly decides to like themselves and doesn’t need the hardcore shit anymore.


You guys, this isn’t just about the 80 Day Obsession.  This is about the entirety of this brand.

Push play on this 80 day program.  Good job!  Whoops, not good enough, now buy this really freaking expensive superfood shake to go with it.  Good job, aren’t they delicious?  Aren’t you freaking nourished and #blessed?

Wait….we need help pushing this shit out to the masses, I know, let’s create “coaches!”

Suddenly spread in every feed in your social, hell, you’re lucky if you have just one in there.  There’s likely three or four.  Hinting that you should join their clean eating challenge.  Or their detox (the devil’s work).  Or….maybe you want to create YOUR #blessed life too, and start peddling the shit down the line to the next unsuspecting victims.

Here’s the thing.  I’m down if you want to push yourself in a workout program.  Dude, I push myself in workout programs!  I am down with that good stuff!  I am down with adding some healthy intensity to my life.  I’m also down with making my nutrition match my goals, so long as it’s sustainable and SANE.

I am absolutely not down with this shit running my life for 80 days, or 1 day.  I have better things to think about.

I am also not down with a company who talks down to the masses about “needing to feel good about wearing that swimsuit this summer.”  Because if it’s summer, you put a swimsuit on.  End of story.  And feel good about feeling good RIGHT NOW in it, too.

Oh, and let’s not quite stop there.  I’m not down with people who actually perhaps don’t have the training to advise people in workout programs or nutritional protocols, and the only credential they have is paying $49 or $99 to a company to buy a starter kit to help them peddle shit down the line.  That isn’t training.  That’s a pyramid.  No matter if you feel #blessed or not.

Here are the things I look for in a workout program for what it’s worth:

  • It’s intentional…the exercises inside of it help you be better at something, somehow, and help you shore up any weak stuff
  • It’s scalable….you can make it harder or easier, there isn’t a cookie cutter way or choreographed bullshit
  • It’s a tool in your toolbox, not your ENTIRE toolbox (meaning, it enhances your life, doesn’t RUN your life)

There are more things for sure, those are a quick list.  Shitshows like 80 Day Obsession are exactly why I wrote #MomBoss.  Because, well, it meets my criteria for a program, AND is short and sweet AF for busy mamas to get inside their workout and get out of it, so they can continue on wiping butts, winning the bread, and ending their day with a glass of wine (that doesn’t fit into a 21 day fix container, BTW).  I have no idea if #MomBoss is for you.  Only YOU can know that.  And a full disclosure on #MomBoss.  It will make you stronger and more resilient, but it won’t help you magically find happy, because that’s an inside job.  It is one tool in your toolbox.  And you already rock.  This will help you follow a strength program, stay focused, build mom muscle, and, to be honest, probably be stronger and more mobile than you even think can happen in eight short weeks.  But it can’t BE your life.  It can only be a tiny little sliver.  Because 80 days of freaking obsession is no way to live, mmmmkay?

PS – Gloves are off, Beachbody.  And, well, every MLM for that matter.

Four (Mom) Boss Tips To Avoid Passing Body Image Yuck On To Your Littles

Last week, I came across something disturbing AF on social media.  A body fat measuring scale for…………..KIDS.

Holy effballs, you guys.  I immediately wanted to throw up in my mouth a little, because this is potentially what we are doing to the NEXT generation.  Did you know that HALF of teenage girls have been on a diet?  I mean, I thought we were doing better than this at this stage.

Then, I got raged up.  I mean, what in the ACTUAL eff?

Then, I started thinking critically.  Instead of freaking out (well,I did internally)….I thought for a few days on what we CAN do to help our littles NOT deal in the body image ick that so many of us deal in.

Said another way, what things can WE Mom Bosses do right now to breed healthy confidence, and not shame or fear surrounding bodies or food.  Or, for the love of all that’s holy, don’t instill a nasty body image yuck cycle in those littles.

I’m definitely not an expert in this area.  I mean, I get caught up in body image yuck and have to check myself lots!  Having little girls has made that CRYSTAL clear.  My four tips aren’t exactly mind blowing.  However, they might create a stir in YOU, as you begin to have to deal with and/or unpack all the body image shit that YOU deal with internally, whether you know it or not.  This definitely isn’t meant to be a blame game for anyone (including myself), but it’s an opportunity to be aware and do better as we go.

And guess what?  We can talk and say all the right things about body image, but if WE don’t act the part, well, that’s not super awesome.  Actions always, always, always speak louder than words.  So I’m going to give you a variety of topics to process, with lots of questions.  This post isn’t about “how” to do this so much as to get you reflecting a little bit so YOU can figure out YOUR way of addressing this.

Check YOUR language.  How are you talking about YOUR body?  How are you talking about YOUR food intake?  What descriptions are you making of your body?  What words are present as you talk about health and weight and food?  This is a big damn clue, mamas.  We have a big opportunity to use lots of positive words around body image and food stuff.

  • Eating lunch gives me LOTS of energy.
  • Veggies give me big muscles!
  • I like how this outfit makes me feel.
  • I love my legs!

Mamas, we can go lots of places here, depending on the ages of your littles.  But more importantly, it starts with how YOU are talking about YOURSELF so THEY can learn, too.

Check YOUR actions.  Are you marching to the scale every day to mourn?  Are your littles seeing that?  What about the mirror?  What kid of expressions are your littles seeing when they are in front of the mirror with you?  Disgust, pinching skin, and yuck?  Or power, smiles, and appreciation?  I think lots of things can happen with mirror time that can be opportunities for learning and growth.  Yes, there are the muscle flexing times, I mean, DUH!  I think you can probably learn lessons from a bad day in the mirror, too, with a kid.  I mean, everything ISN’T rosey all the time in life and with body image.  Mirror time can easily be a time for reflection and appreciation, or even just to make yourself laugh with crazy faces and whatnot.  Oh, and are you always making yourself different meals than your littles?  Or are you eating what they eat to some extent?  If littles are eating pizza and mom’s plate is completely different, won’t there be questions…or even assumptions….that mom’s can’t eat like everyone else?

Measuring weight and body fat on a child is probably just not a great choice.  I’m no expert, but holy hell, getting the “how much do I weigh” and “do I have too much body fat” and “am I the same clothing size as my friends” thoughts into a child’s head is probably not ideal at all.  This can easily lead to “is this the right weight” or “am I too big” or a whole bunch of other yuck that just need not be present at home.  Of course, littles get exposed to things in the real world and at school and from social media, but holy hell, if we can keep home a measuring free zone, well….I think we can teach them that measurements aren’t the norm.

Face those conversations instead of avoiding them.  I mean, it can be easy to avoid or change the subject on a hard body image topic.  Avoiding doesn’t give littles an opportunity to learn a positive way (unless you are trying to avoid the “where do babies come from” convo and trying to make dad be the teacher on that one, lol).  I don’t know about YOU, but having these conversations at times feels like insane therapy for ME.  Having to face MY shit head up and put the conversation and lesson into words a four year old can interpret and learn from helps ME realize some of the yuck I’m STILL hanging on to in the back of my brain.  It simplifies it for me, to be honest.

Oof, you guys.  There isn’t one way here in my opinion.  But there are a lot of NOT awesome ways, too.  Ultimately it probably depends on the context and atmosphere and YOU and YOUR littles.

What say you on this topic?  I’m ALL ears.  Because if we unpack OUR shit, we can help our littles nix some of that baggage.

Three Things That Make My Blood Boil About Pinterest Core Workouts

A simple search of “core workout” on Pinterest yields a frightening amount of shitty core workouts.

To be fair, there were about four “ok” ones.

And….after scrolling for probably 15 minutes, the rest were either not ideal, not factual, not safe, and…..most of those were from people who appeared to have no training or knowledge or education in actually writing and appropriate core workout.

Also, the language surrounding these workouts is absolutely horrid.

“Lose the mom pooch in x days….”

“Best exercises to destroy your belly pooch.”

“The x day flat belly challenge.”

“X day Muffin Top Challenge.”

“Shrink your belly in x days.”

“Perfect pregnancy prenatal core workouts.” (OMG you guys, this one made me cringe, the exercises were SO not ideal for a pregnant body)

My favorite part about scrolling these disasters is when the writer of the workouts has no idea what an exercise is called, so things like “butt ups” and “lean backs” are born.

Oh, and the plank a day pictures…..where there is so much anterior pelvic tilt that the woman in the photo isn’t even remotely targeting her core because her abs are out of the game (and her low back is probably sore like woah). Though, I suppose, it does make for a nice fitness model pose picture when her ass is in the air….*sigh*.

My blood boils, ladies. It BOILS.

Because instead of providing credible, factual, USEFUL information, social media (in this case, Pinterest) is just a place to get more garbage from, and to fuel it further down into the lives of women.

Let me tell you the THREE biggest things that really make me want to rant and rant and rant about Pinterest core workouts…..

  1. They are not user specific. I mean, duh, how can they be. They are poorly designed workouts that have a mish mash of exercises that *feel* like core muscles working and burning. BUT, the graphic they are designed on is so pretty, and tells you in so many words how THIS CORE WORKOUT is going to five you a flat tummy. If you can’t feel my sarcasm, I’ll spell it out. And “the core” isn’t trained by a mish mash of exercises easily displayed on a pretty graphic. It works through a variety of exercises during a workout that don’t always feel like muscles working and burning, maybe sometimes it does. It also works during the rest of your life too, during a healthy breathing pattern, how well you carry yourself with posture and alignment. This varies person to person, core to core….because bodies are DIFFERENT and have different “things” going on for them.

  2. They portray that “toning” your core, or melting at the midsection is done via a specific workout instead of a multifaceted approach of proper nutrition, strength training, and stress management and sleep. Just because someone writes “this core workout will shrink your midsection in two weeks” on a fancy graphic doesn’t mean that workout will ACTUALLY shrink your midsection in two weeks.

  3. Just because someone writes a core workout on Pinterest….doesn’t mean it is legit, credible, SAFE, factual, TRUE, or based on any sort of knowledge or training so they can advise other individuals. I DO know some legit professionals who pin some workouts, and they ARE credible. But, that’s probably like 4%. The other 96% is spewed up onto Pinterest boards from people not credible to provide such information, and shared to the masses of women wanting to consume this information. So, consider your source I guess is what I’m saying. And, don’t share things you don’t know to be true might be good advice for all of us (about core workouts, or life in general).

Here’s the thing. There is more to a healthy core than just a workout. SO MUCH MORE. How do we breathe, how we do sit, stand, and rest in positions? How do we exercise? Do we have any special considerations, injuries, or weaknesses that would impact any one of these things? Are we choosing exercises that mimic real life AND how the core rotates, doesn’t rotate, and how it protects the spine? SO MUCH to consider here.

And so, I’m offering you a chance to learn how your core works, how to work on breathing, how to stand and sit and rest with your core in mind. Oh, and….the big exercises to look to when it’s time to go to the gym. I’m actually putting on #CoreBoss for FREE beginning January 10th, and I’d love to have you join me. My goal with this course is to get women thinking critically about this stuff, so THEY can be their own guru, and not rely on Pinterest to vomit up crappy workouts for them. #CoreBoss is 100% online, and 100% FREE. Please share this with your best girlfriend who could use this information and stop the madness with allll the sit-ups, alllll the time, mmmmmkay?

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