A few weeks ago, I texted my best fitness friend to tell her I was in a massive funk. The same old story – I should be doing this, I should be feeling like this, I should be doing more at this, blah blah blah. I was at the tail end of my maternity leave and starting to get a little (lot?) nutty. Her response…..get your ass on journaling. Journal, journal, journal.
And I did for a few days. She gave me a few reminders about journaling and checked in with me. And to be honest, I was fine in a few days.
You know why I was fine after a few days? Because I was back in my happy place routine. With a little structure but not too much. And back in the gym watching others tear it up and getting myself easing back in a bit more to workouts. OMG, once you are out of that setting and then get re-entry….it’s AWESOME.
Not gonna lie to you, having some weeks at home with a new babe and more family time rocked too. It really did. But I also get a little nutso when my brain doesn’t get a dose of strength training and talk of strength training, a loose schedule, or a few minutes of solo time. LOL.
And so I have more of an opportunity to try out some self-care in different ways right now. Mostly because I’m easing back into work and workouts, and have time between classes/clients to do some of these things right now.
Before Maren showed up, I would say self-care was a bit easier. Todd, Emma and I were in a routine, and Emma is four, so she is independent quite a bit, and also has her own little life with pre-school and part time daycare, and friends and grandma’s stealing her to come play. So going for a solo walk, journaling, meditating, and all that jazz was something that COULD easily fit inside my day. OR, getting up early in the morning to do those things before she woke up, because sleep was regular and plentiful, lol.
So, I still love those things, but they don’t always fit as easily into life right now. So, I’m practicing self-care a little differently.
I’m dedicating 20 minutes each and every day to go for a walk. Either by myself, with my kids, or with our entire family. I don’t care how I get it, I just gotta get it. First and foremost, it’s just a regular movement practice that I can count on that’s easy enough to do EVERYDAY. To be honest, solo walks are nice some days, but I also really dig an entire family walk (yesterday we went to a local county park and walked and that rocked). Spending time as a family unit IS part of my personal self-care routine right now because we are still new to being a family of four and it’s important. So is solo time, and so the few times each week that solo walks have been happening, they’ve been with coffee cup in hand and that has been LOVELY, and I’ve been sometimes doing it without any music, OR I’ve been listening to a cool podcast or something, or complete silence. Twenty minutes EVERYDAY. Loving it.
I’m doing a mobility/feel good routine most days. Nothing crazy at all. To be honest, whatever I feel like that day, and sometimes it’s in jammies or sometimes it’s after a workout, or sometimes it’s in the living room at night. Just to un-crunchify and get my body feeling like a working body again. And to remind myself that I’m a priority and I can feel present in this body.
I’m trying out a no-spend month for size. Technically probably not a true self-care practice, but it’s still a good thing for me. In June, I’m nixing the non-essential spending. No Old Navy random orders, no Target fun trips. Nothing except food, toilet paper, etc. I did slip once in the first week when I wasn’t thinking and bought a bath bomb, lol. But….so far, this is making me rethink a bunch of things. So, obviously no-spend months probably aren’t realistic for every month BUT in July I’m already brainstorming how I can take this and make it realistic….like buying ONE cool thing per month, or actually establishing a formal fun budget for myself or something that doesn’t end up in me buying kid stuff, lol. Basically I’m learning that a little planning goes a long way in the form of eating more meals at home and less on the go, packing snacks and water, I don’t need every last tank top that’s on 60% markdown from American Eagle clearance, etc. OH, and I haven’t bought workout clothes for TWO MONTHS (technically a business expense…..but still, lol). This little no spend month has been a lot of thinking and honestly, peace of mind knowing that there is cash tucked aside and not just vanished into thin air.
I can tell you I’m still ducking into the bathtub for some epsom salt goodness when it’s convenient. And I usually bring a beer with me and Todd asks if I’m seriously drinking in the tub (yes). I still journal and will come and go back to that always. I’m also creating a bunch of things for my blog and online business that are technically still work BUT they are almost more self-care because I’m creating things I believe in, and wish were created for me when I needed them, and it’s almost therapeutic in a way.
What about you? What kinds of things are you doing for self-care right now? Are they traditional or are they wacky and random? I want to know! Drop me a comment on my Facebook page!