Gloves off this year, Big Diet!
I mean, if you hadn’t already picked up on that from me, lol.
But seriously, it is important that we talk about Big Diet, and all the ways it is jacking up our relationship with food. Well, really, it doesn’t stop with JUST our relationship with food. It spreads it’s ugly message of “not good enough” into every facet of our life – how we feel about ourselves, how we feel about our body, and, well…how we feel about how we make choices about our food and our body.
Big Diet breeds fear. Fear of food groups, or food in general, or fear of feeling fat, or fear of feeling inadequate. Just plain old fear. Fear, although not an overall bad emotion, isn’t generally an emotion that is helpful with food because, well….it’s dang hard to trust yourself and your food choices when you fear them. And Big Diet is there, lurking right around the corner, waiting for you to get frustrated, feel like a failure, and opt into the next diet waiting for sale.
You guys, I KNOW! The lure of a new plan, a new nutrition program, a new diet…..ohhhhhh the sexiness of it. It feels HOPEFUL. It feels EXCITING to feel like you are taking charge, as you head to the grocery store to buy all the new foods on your approved foods list. It feels incredibly empowering to know that when that diet is over, you will be wearing all the new clothes, and getting all the compliments.
But it’s a trap. One that, if you don’t stop and drop out of the Big Diet cycle, will keep you feeling powerless and fearful and never being able to trust your choices surrounding food. You will always be relying on Big Diet to provide you a plan for you to eat. And not only that, you will be messing around with your metabolism in the process, possibly finding yourself in the ugly lose/gain/gain cycle that is so common of Big Diet. Check out my Building A Bangin’ Metabolism series if you need more reasons to not diet, mmmkay?
Does that FEEL like a good place to live the rest of your life? In fear? Unable to trust yourself? Gain and losing the same pounds plus some? Never making your own food choices?
The sooner we can drop out of Big Diet, the sooner we can get on living life the way it’s meant to be lived – with trust. And confidence. And realizing, that YES, you ARE good enough.
I thought it might be helpful to start this How To Spot A Quick Fix Like A Boss series to show you the sneaky ways Big Diet can manifest itself, and so you can hone your skills, and vaccinate yourself against Big Diet’s ugly ways. Sound good? Because I would love nothing more for you than to hone your skills, so that when a Quick Fix presents itself, your bullshit detector goes off and you run the other way. Because a Quick Fix is just that short term “solution,” right? We know it won’t work, or last. And we know it will keep us in the Big Diet shame cycle. Ish.
Today, we chat all about The Sexy Product, the easiest Quick Fix to spot.
Quick Fix #1: The Sexy Product
Ladies, this is the easiest Quick Fix to spot, because there is actually a “miracle product” that will “do all the hard work for you.” Pills, shakes, patches, fat burners, detox systems, allllll this stuff falls into this Quick Fix category.
I know it feels super hopeful to eat a donut and then either slap a patch on your skin so “the calories don’t absorb” or to eat french fries for breakfast, lunch, and dinner and take fat burners at each meal so you negate them, buuuuttttttt…..
….it doesn’t work that way.
Here’s why The Sexy Product is another Quick Fix. Because you are being led to believe that you don’t have to change anything about your habits in order to lose weight. You can eat like you always eat, the product will do the work, you know?
Let me share a way that The Sexy Product has become EVEN SNEAKIER. Often times they are sold with some sort of meal plan or strategy. It looks a little like this – drink two shakes a day, and eat two colorful meals (often protein and veggies), and 2 healthy snacks per day (often protein and fruit or something). Let Sexy Product work for you while you follow this meal plan!
Here’s the shady part – you lost weight, which you feel great about! But….you believe The Sexy Product was the driver for the weight loss. And, to be honest, it was YOU who was the driver for the weight loss. You see, yes, you took the product, but those shakes were lower in calories than what you might typically eat. So were the colorful meals and the healthy snacks. Instead of The Sexy Product “being magic” and causing the weight to fall off, what really happened was YOU were in a calorie deficit, which generated weight loss. And now The Sexy Product gets all the glory, instead of YOU for your hard work! Um, WHAT?
This Quick Fix traps you into thinking that you need the product to get the results. It leads you to believe that the product is the magic, the doer of the work. And it keeps you buying the Quick Fix month after month because you believe that, lining the pockets of Big Diet even more.
Again, The Sexy Product can be a variety of things. But it boils down to being only something that looks sexy, and feels sexy (and hopeful), and really, it just traps you into thinking you must rely on the product, and not yourself.
Do you see how that breeds fear? Fear of what happens to you without the product?
And do you see how that is the opposite of trusting YOURSELF?
So, if you find yourself stuck in this Quick Fix, here are a few helpful tips for you:
- It’s time to leave. You need an exit strategy. Here’s one – just stop this Quick Fix. You are delaying your entry into a mental space and belief system where YOU are the driver for change.
- Understand that you are worthy of unconditional love (no matter what you think your size or body has to do with it), and you are SO ENOUGH RIGHT NOW. This might be hard to hear, I know. But, it doesn’t make it any less true.
- Unsubscribe from emails, unfollow social media accounts and friends that promote this Quick Fix so it’s out of your face all day long.
- Find a support system that will help you look at the bigger picture here, and not send you running into the next Quick Fix.
Ladies, I get it. I’ve DONE the Quick Fixes. Loads of them, in fact. I was trapped in this little hell for a LONG TIME. So, I want to give you hope. You can come out on the other side of it. It’s hard, for sure. There is lots of baggage to unpack. But it is doable, so long as you decide you want to take back the power, instead of giving it away to Big Diet every day/month/year.
If you want an understanding of how your body, and your metabolism actually WORKS, feel free to pick up my free #MetabolicBoss guide. My guide will help you learn how your body actually burns calories, and what things help or harm that process. Oh, and at the end, there is a five step action plan that will help you get on the path to actually doing your body a favor and work with it, instead of against it.