Well, I call it nutrition. Or “how we eat.” Or, really……”the intersection of eating for health and eating a few treats.”
Sometimes, “nutrition” seems to get shuffled about and mixed up with “dieting.”
Can they be the same? Yes, sometimes.
But there’s this crazy thing between nutrition and dieting. It’s like this little fantasy land, where magical things exist that wipe out calories, or eating certain ways or foods trump calories, or the notion that nutrition and health somehow have to be painful. Or that just because you watched “What The Health,” you are now an expert at nutrition and that vegan is the answer and the only answer. My friend Christina has a good name for the person that lives in this fantasy land – unicorn princess ponies. And I dig it. HA!
I liken it to the red pill and blue pill concept. You know, if you take the blue pill, it’s all unicorns and rainbows. It’s dreamy. It’s like, very chill, yo. Calories don’t matter. And it’s all grand because we are living an illusion.
The red pill, however, is the opposite. It’s reality. Sometimes it’s cool, and sometimes it stings. Calories matter, no matter if you count them or not. Health, nutrition, losing fat or weight…well, they take REAL effort. Sometimes more than you thought you needed to give, and it’s not always because of food, but because of how you think about food.
Thought it would be high time to talk through red pill/blue pill scenarios today, and get real. Let’s work through some very common thoughts surrounding food, nutrition, dieting, fat loss, you name it. Ok?
Blue pill: I eat clean, so I never have to worry about counting calories, because all the foods I eat are healthy, free of toxins, and calories don’t matter when I eat this way.
Red pill: I know that eating mostly whole foods is a great approach to nutrition, because these foods are difficult to overeat, and also I get a lot of “health” in them for a small caloric cost. However, I know that overeating chicken is still overeating. Just like overeating Cheetos is overeating.
Blue pill: If I just love myself enough, the weight will take care of itself.
Red pill: If I do the work and practice self-acceptance, and deal with the things I need to deal with (the hard shit and the bullshit), and begin learning how to like myself where I’m currently AT, changing my behaviors and habits might be easier because they are coming from a place of acceptance and love. They will still take effort though, and that’s ok, because I realize I need to be in this for the long haul.
Blue pill: I’m so excited. I’m drinking two shakes a day and eating healthy snacks and a colorful dinner. These shakes are MAGIC. The weight is just falling off.
Red pill: Shut the F up about your shake program. You are in a calorie deficit! Which is why the weight is falling off. It ain’t the shakes honey. It’s the deficit. Give YOURSELF credit for being in a deficit and embracing some healthy eating (the meals and snacks, not the shakes). Don’t give the shakes the credit for the work you put in! Save your money, your mental game, and the notion that you only need to do this for the next 6 weeks to get the weight off, and figure how how you can eat LONG TERM that doesn’t involve one more quick fix.
Blue pill: I only eat organic foods. I don’t allow toxins and pesticides into my diet. Even snacks. Organic Cheetos! So healthy! So delicious! So free of toxins!
Red pill: Organic Cheetos are still Cheetos. Delicious yes, but you can overeat them just the same as regular ones.
Blue pill: I only sweeten things with Stevia and Agave nectar. Because it’s natural, and it’s good for me. So much healthier than table sugar!
Red pill: Sugar is sugar is sugar. No matter if it’s table sugar or Agave, and too much is too much.
As a nutrition coach, and someone with an icky past of diet mindset and food anxiety, I can totally understand the Blue Pill. I WANT to live in that land. All those unicorns and rainbows, you know? It’s all easy! I can just sprinkle a little fairy dust on stuff, and it’s magic. I spent a lot of years spinning my wheels in Blue Pill land.
However, I can tell you, I began to appreciate the Red Pill when it came time to owning my own bullshit stories, and when it came time to dealing with why I ate feelings instead of felt them. To be honest, the Red Pill is freeing because it’s reality and realizing WE control our actions and even if it’s a little harsh at times, we are ready to handle it. The Red Pill was also my vaccination against the bullshit that the Diet Industry was feeding me. Once I began making choices based on my MY wellbeing, and not the growth of THEIR bottom line, things, including my perspective, began to shift.
Here’s the deal, YOU choose which pill to take. Some will take the Blue Pill for a minute or even years, and to be be honest, that’s ok, because they need to learn their path that way.
Some will take the Red Pill instantly, and that’s cool too, because they know they are facing reality with up AND downs.
My program, #NutritionBoss, deals in Red Pills. I’m not a Blue Pill coach. I don’t coach in fantasy land, I coach in reality. #NutritionBoss is for you if you want to sort through your own bullshit with nutrition, learn some habits that will take you far that you can use right now and when you are 90. If you are looking for unicorns or fairy dust, #NutritionBoss isn’t for you.