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How To Spot A Quick Fix Like A Boss: The Sexy Product Edition

Gloves off this year, Big Diet!

I mean, if you hadn’t already picked up on that from me, lol.

But seriously, it is important that we talk about Big Diet, and all the ways it is jacking up our relationship with food.  Well, really, it doesn’t stop with JUST our relationship with food.  It spreads it’s ugly message of “not good enough” into every facet of our life – how we feel about ourselves, how we feel about our body, and, well…how we feel about how we make choices about our food and our body.  

Big Diet breeds fear.  Fear of food groups, or food in general, or fear of feeling fat, or fear of feeling inadequate.  Just plain old fear.  Fear, although not an overall bad emotion,  isn’t generally an emotion that is helpful with food because, well….it’s dang hard to trust yourself and your food choices when you fear them.  And Big Diet is there, lurking right around the corner, waiting for you to get frustrated, feel like a failure, and opt into the next diet waiting for sale.  

You guys, I KNOW!  The lure of a new plan, a new nutrition program, a new diet…..ohhhhhh the sexiness of it.  It feels HOPEFUL.  It feels EXCITING to feel like you are taking charge, as you head to the grocery store to buy all the new foods on your approved foods list.  It feels incredibly empowering to know that when that diet is over, you will be wearing all the new clothes, and getting all the compliments.  

But it’s a trap.  One that, if you don’t stop and drop out of the Big Diet cycle, will keep you feeling powerless and fearful and never being able to trust your choices surrounding food.  You will always be relying on Big Diet to provide you a plan for you to eat.  And not only that, you will be messing around with your metabolism in the process, possibly finding yourself in the ugly lose/gain/gain cycle that is so common of Big Diet.  Check out my Building A Bangin’ Metabolism series if you need more reasons to not diet, mmmkay?

Does that FEEL like a good place to live the rest of your life?  In fear?  Unable to trust yourself?  Gain and losing the same pounds plus some?  Never making your own food choices?

The sooner we can drop out of Big Diet, the sooner we can get on living life the way it’s meant to be lived – with trust.  And confidence.  And realizing, that YES, you ARE good enough.  

I thought it might be helpful to start this How To Spot A Quick Fix Like A Boss series to show you the sneaky ways Big Diet can manifest itself, and so you can hone your skills, and vaccinate yourself against Big Diet’s ugly ways.  Sound good?  Because I would love nothing more for you than to hone your skills, so that when a Quick Fix presents itself, your bullshit detector goes off and you run the other way.  Because a Quick Fix is just that short term “solution,” right?  We know it won’t work, or last. And we know it will keep us in the Big Diet shame cycle.  Ish.

Today, we chat all about The Sexy Product, the easiest Quick Fix to spot.  

Quick Fix #1: The Sexy Product

Ladies, this is the easiest Quick Fix to spot, because there is actually a “miracle product” that will “do all the hard work for you.”  Pills, shakes, patches, fat burners, detox systems, allllll this stuff falls into this Quick Fix category.  

I know it feels super hopeful to eat a donut and then either slap a patch on your skin so “the calories don’t absorb” or to eat french fries for breakfast, lunch, and dinner and take fat burners at each meal so you negate them, buuuuttttttt…..

….it doesn’t work that way.  

Here’s why The Sexy Product is another Quick Fix.  Because you are being led to believe that you don’t have to change anything about your habits in order to lose weight.  You can eat like you always eat, the product will do the work, you know?  

Uh, no.  

Let me share a way that The Sexy Product has become EVEN SNEAKIER.  Often times they are sold with some sort of meal plan or strategy.  It looks a little like this – drink two shakes a day, and eat two colorful meals (often protein and veggies), and 2 healthy snacks per day (often protein and fruit or something).  Let Sexy Product work for you while you follow this meal plan!

Here’s the shady part – you lost weight, which you feel great about!  But….you believe The Sexy Product was the driver for the weight loss.  And, to be honest, it was YOU who was the driver for the weight loss.  You see, yes, you took the product, but those shakes were lower in calories than what you might typically eat.  So were the colorful meals and the healthy snacks.  Instead of The Sexy Product “being magic” and causing the weight to fall off, what really happened was YOU were in a calorie deficit, which generated weight loss.  And now The Sexy Product gets all the glory, instead of YOU for your hard work!  Um, WHAT?

This Quick Fix traps you into thinking that you need the product to get the results.  It leads you to believe that the product is the magic, the doer of the work.  And it keeps you buying the Quick Fix month after month because you believe that, lining the pockets of Big Diet even more.  

Again, The Sexy Product can be a variety of things.  But it boils down to being only something that looks sexy, and feels sexy (and hopeful), and really, it just traps you into thinking you must rely on the product, and not yourself.

Do you see how that breeds fear?  Fear of what happens to you without the product?  

And do you see how that is the opposite of trusting YOURSELF?  

So, if you find yourself stuck in this Quick Fix, here are a few helpful tips for you:

  • It’s time to leave.  You need an exit strategy.  Here’s one – just stop this Quick Fix.  You are delaying your entry into a mental space and belief system where YOU are the driver for change.  
  • Understand that you are worthy of unconditional love (no matter what you think your size or body has to do with it), and you are SO ENOUGH RIGHT NOW.  This might be hard to hear, I know.  But, it doesn’t make it any less true.
  • Unsubscribe from emails, unfollow social media accounts and friends that promote this Quick Fix so it’s out of your face all day long.
  • Find a support system that will help you look at the bigger picture here, and not send you running into the next Quick Fix.  

Ladies, I get it.  I’ve DONE the Quick Fixes.  Loads of them, in fact.  I was trapped in this little hell for a LONG TIME.  So, I want to give you hope.  You can come out on the other side of it.  It’s hard, for sure.  There is lots of baggage to unpack.  But it is doable, so long as you decide you want to take back the power, instead of giving it away to Big Diet every day/month/year.  

If you want an understanding of how your body, and your metabolism actually WORKS, feel free to pick up my free #MetabolicBoss guide.  My guide will help you learn how your body actually burns calories, and what things help or harm that process.  Oh, and at the end, there is a five step action plan that will help you get on the path to actually doing your body a favor and work with it, instead of against it.  

Snag my FREE #MetabolicBoss guide here!

Why You Shouldn’t Obsess For 80 Days (A Beachbody Rant)

Ah yes.  Today is the day.  The day I’m done being Switzerland about Beachbody.

I’m going to rant about the “latest and greatest” Beachbody program….80 Day Obsession.

AKA another way for people to get sucked into the mentality that fitness (and nutrition, if you’re a “fixer”) must be BALLS TO THE WALLS in order for it to count.

Let’s start with the name of the program.

80 Day Obsession.  AKA 80 Days Of Disordered Thinking About Yourself, Your Fitness, And Your Food.

I don’t know about you, but 80 days is a long ass time for me to be obsessive about my workouts and my nutrition.  Hell, one day is too long to be obsessive about those things.  I’m more like….let’s lift a few times a week, enjoy our eating, and then still do the mom-ing, and the working and not just be so damn focused on “pushing play” for the sake of pushing play to say “I was obsessed for 80 days.”

There doesn’t seem to be room for growth with an 80 day obsession.  There just seems to be room for starting a program, being crazy about it for 80 days, and then stopping.  Then what happens?  Are you “indifferent” for 80 days beyond that?

According to Beachbody’s website, under FAQ’s….in order for someone to be successful with the 80 day obsession….

….You need discipline and dedication—and a willingness to work hard for maximum results! To reshape your body in a specific way like this requires an obsession to detail, including following the Timed-Nutrition Eating Plan and giving your all in every workout. It’s not easy, but don’t worry, Autumn and the cast will be right there with you, working just as hard!

To reshape your body requires an obsession to detail, people!  We aren’t doing it good enough anymore!  Plus, that timed nutrition eating plan!  I mean….

80 Day Obsession….another way of saying if you don’t prioritize nutrition and workouts to the hilt and live and die by them, you just aren’t good enough.

Here’s the thing.  It isn’t *just* about the 80 Day Obsession.

It’s that it isn’t good enough anymore to incorporate some strategic workouts and figuring out how the hell how to like how you eat after being on a diet for eleventy billion years.  Nope, now we gotta OBSESS.  And that really chaps my ass.  Because, well, isn’t the point of fitness and food to ENHANCE our life?  Not BE our life?

A quick question that I like to ask myself when I’m considering a new program or a nutritional approach….

Am I willing to do this for the rest of my life?  

I mean, because, if I’m not, well…where the hell are those “hardcore” results gonna go after the 80 obsessive freaking days?

Perhaps a better way to do this, Beachbody, is to help people find the intersection between where they can eat in a sustainably healthy fashion, work out in a sustainably healthy fashion, AND FUNCTION AND THRIVE IN THEIR LIFE IN A SUSTAINABLY HEALTHY FASHION (yes, those are shouty effing capitals).  Where is THAT program, Beachbody?  Where are THOSE “coaches” helping people do THAT?

*awkward crickets*

Oh that’s right.  There aren’t sales in those products.  There won’t be turnover in those products from the buyers needing to find “the next best program” after they obsess for 80 effing days.

How does a company in the multi billion dollar fitness and diet industry generate revenue?

Hint: they DON’T, if their target market suddenly decides to like themselves and doesn’t need the hardcore shit anymore.

Huh.

You guys, this isn’t just about the 80 Day Obsession.  This is about the entirety of this brand.

Push play on this 80 day program.  Good job!  Whoops, not good enough, now buy this really freaking expensive superfood shake to go with it.  Good job, aren’t they delicious?  Aren’t you freaking nourished and #blessed?

Wait….we need help pushing this shit out to the masses, I know, let’s create “coaches!”

Suddenly spread in every feed in your social, hell, you’re lucky if you have just one in there.  There’s likely three or four.  Hinting that you should join their clean eating challenge.  Or their detox (the devil’s work).  Or….maybe you want to create YOUR #blessed life too, and start peddling the shit down the line to the next unsuspecting victims.

Here’s the thing.  I’m down if you want to push yourself in a workout program.  Dude, I push myself in workout programs!  I am down with that good stuff!  I am down with adding some healthy intensity to my life.  I’m also down with making my nutrition match my goals, so long as it’s sustainable and SANE.

I am absolutely not down with this shit running my life for 80 days, or 1 day.  I have better things to think about.

I am also not down with a company who talks down to the masses about “needing to feel good about wearing that swimsuit this summer.”  Because if it’s summer, you put a swimsuit on.  End of story.  And feel good about feeling good RIGHT NOW in it, too.

Oh, and let’s not quite stop there.  I’m not down with people who actually perhaps don’t have the training to advise people in workout programs or nutritional protocols, and the only credential they have is paying $49 or $99 to a company to buy a starter kit to help them peddle shit down the line.  That isn’t training.  That’s a pyramid.  No matter if you feel #blessed or not.

Here are the things I look for in a workout program for what it’s worth:

  • It’s intentional…the exercises inside of it help you be better at something, somehow, and help you shore up any weak stuff
  • It’s scalable….you can make it harder or easier, there isn’t a cookie cutter way or choreographed bullshit
  • It’s a tool in your toolbox, not your ENTIRE toolbox (meaning, it enhances your life, doesn’t RUN your life)

There are more things for sure, those are a quick list.  Shitshows like 80 Day Obsession are exactly why I wrote #MomBoss.  Because, well, it meets my criteria for a program, AND is short and sweet AF for busy mamas to get inside their workout and get out of it, so they can continue on wiping butts, winning the bread, and ending their day with a glass of wine (that doesn’t fit into a 21 day fix container, BTW).  I have no idea if #MomBoss is for you.  Only YOU can know that.  And a full disclosure on #MomBoss.  It will make you stronger and more resilient, but it won’t help you magically find happy, because that’s an inside job.  It is one tool in your toolbox.  And you already rock.  This will help you follow a strength program, stay focused, build mom muscle, and, to be honest, probably be stronger and more mobile than you even think can happen in eight short weeks.  But it can’t BE your life.  It can only be a tiny little sliver.  Because 80 days of freaking obsession is no way to live, mmmmkay?

PS – Gloves are off, Beachbody.  And, well, every MLM for that matter.

Three Things That Make My Blood Boil About Pinterest Core Workouts

A simple search of “core workout” on Pinterest yields a frightening amount of shitty core workouts.


To be fair, there were about four “ok” ones.


And….after scrolling for probably 15 minutes, the rest were either not ideal, not factual, not safe, and…..most of those were from people who appeared to have no training or knowledge or education in actually writing and appropriate core workout.


Also, the language surrounding these workouts is absolutely horrid.


“Lose the mom pooch in x days….”


“Best exercises to destroy your belly pooch.”


“The x day flat belly challenge.”


“X day Muffin Top Challenge.”


“Shrink your belly in x days.”


“Perfect pregnancy prenatal core workouts.” (OMG you guys, this one made me cringe, the exercises were SO not ideal for a pregnant body)


My favorite part about scrolling these disasters is when the writer of the workouts has no idea what an exercise is called, so things like “butt ups” and “lean backs” are born.


Oh, and the plank a day pictures…..where there is so much anterior pelvic tilt that the woman in the photo isn’t even remotely targeting her core because her abs are out of the game (and her low back is probably sore like woah). Though, I suppose, it does make for a nice fitness model pose picture when her ass is in the air….*sigh*.


My blood boils, ladies. It BOILS.

Because instead of providing credible, factual, USEFUL information, social media (in this case, Pinterest) is just a place to get more garbage from, and to fuel it further down into the lives of women.


Let me tell you the THREE biggest things that really make me want to rant and rant and rant about Pinterest core workouts…..


  1. They are not user specific. I mean, duh, how can they be. They are poorly designed workouts that have a mish mash of exercises that *feel* like core muscles working and burning. BUT, the graphic they are designed on is so pretty, and tells you in so many words how THIS CORE WORKOUT is going to five you a flat tummy. If you can’t feel my sarcasm, I’ll spell it out. And “the core” isn’t trained by a mish mash of exercises easily displayed on a pretty graphic. It works through a variety of exercises during a workout that don’t always feel like muscles working and burning, maybe sometimes it does. It also works during the rest of your life too, during a healthy breathing pattern, how well you carry yourself with posture and alignment. This varies person to person, core to core….because bodies are DIFFERENT and have different “things” going on for them.

  2. They portray that “toning” your core, or melting at the midsection is done via a specific workout instead of a multifaceted approach of proper nutrition, strength training, and stress management and sleep. Just because someone writes “this core workout will shrink your midsection in two weeks” on a fancy graphic doesn’t mean that workout will ACTUALLY shrink your midsection in two weeks.

  3. Just because someone writes a core workout on Pinterest….doesn’t mean it is legit, credible, SAFE, factual, TRUE, or based on any sort of knowledge or training so they can advise other individuals. I DO know some legit professionals who pin some workouts, and they ARE credible. But, that’s probably like 4%. The other 96% is spewed up onto Pinterest boards from people not credible to provide such information, and shared to the masses of women wanting to consume this information. So, consider your source I guess is what I’m saying. And, don’t share things you don’t know to be true might be good advice for all of us (about core workouts, or life in general).


Here’s the thing. There is more to a healthy core than just a workout. SO MUCH MORE. How do we breathe, how we do sit, stand, and rest in positions? How do we exercise? Do we have any special considerations, injuries, or weaknesses that would impact any one of these things? Are we choosing exercises that mimic real life AND how the core rotates, doesn’t rotate, and how it protects the spine? SO MUCH to consider here.

And so, I’m offering you a chance to learn how your core works, how to work on breathing, how to stand and sit and rest with your core in mind. Oh, and….the big exercises to look to when it’s time to go to the gym. I’m actually putting on #CoreBoss for FREE beginning January 10th, and I’d love to have you join me. My goal with this course is to get women thinking critically about this stuff, so THEY can be their own guru, and not rely on Pinterest to vomit up crappy workouts for them. #CoreBoss is 100% online, and 100% FREE. Please share this with your best girlfriend who could use this information and stop the madness with allll the sit-ups, alllll the time, mmmmmkay?


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