Amanda Fisher Coaching

I help women get crazy strong - physically AND mentally - through strength training, sustainable eating habits, and a heathy mindset.

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How To Grocery Shop Like A (Mom) Boss

A really awesome question came in a few weeks ago. What does our grocery shopping look like? Where do we shop? How do we buy fresh foods and get them to last? Lots of good questions!

And, that question was actually really timely. I was about to grocery shop. And since, have again, and took notes of how we have been doing this. We have kind of a template it seems, which was super helpful to put together.

We usually do two main grocery shopping trips each month, give or take. We fill in the cracks in between trips if we need to, but to be honest, we are getting this shopping thing down, and try not to do that other than for milk or something like that. We utilize a variety of stores for grocery shopping. We do the Sam’s Club thing, we use a larger grocery store if we are out and about, and we also use the local grocery store. We are lucky to have my father in law raise our beef and pork so those things don’t end up on our shopping list. We also buy eggs from a local Mom Boss in my neck of the woods, and use farmers markets when we can (but….that’s like three months of the year maybe because Minnesota is tricky, lol).

Full confession, I’m not an awesome meal planner. I totally don’t menu plan, but rather have staple things on hand and make things from there. I did menu plan for awhile, and I think I just got so used to creating meals that we just got efficient at shopping.

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Guess what? Grocery shopping is not sexy, BUT. BUT. BUT. We cannot eat the food we don’t have on hand, right? So….it’s a little necessary for most people.

I’m going to lay down some hacks for helping you grocery shop economically AND sanely, so you don’t have to spend hours in the grocery store (unless you want to).

  1. Order your groceries online if possible. This helps you stick to your list and also doesn’t allow you to wander aisles aimlessly and throw stuff in your cart you don’t need!

  2. Include things in your cart that you actually like to eat. Don’t buy stuff you don’t really love just because it is supposedly a health food. Health foods are foods that make YOU feel good and that YOU love to eat.

  3. Take a big pass around the outside edges of the store. Spend the bulk of your budget in the produce, the meat counter (if you don’t know a cool farmer), the freezer section, etc. Wade into the aisles when you need to, but be wary of all the food labels telling you how healthy they are.

  4. Super secret hack that I think everyone who buys those big ass tubs of greens should know…...after you open the container, get a longer life out of those greens by putting a paper towel in the top of the container before you close it up. Keeps the moisture out of your greens so they last LONGER!

    I talk through how we navigate shopping to eat lean AND spend less here:

    Eating healthy gets a bad rap for “being expensive” and for “being complicated.” I call bullshit on both those things. If you struggle with the expense part of it, build yourself a food budget that is realistic and go to town on it. Give it a few months trial run and see how it goes.

    If you struggle with feeling like healthy eating is complicated, I’d love to hook you up. I’ve put together a FREE #20under20 Meal Guide AND Bonus Menu and Shopping List Helper to go with it. I’d love for you to give it whirl and tell me how it works for you!

Three Things To Do When You Feel Paralyzed By Mom Guilt

Mom guilt is a little dirty secret that no one tells you about when you are pregnant with your first (or second, or fifth) baby.

Mom guilt makes you want to skip doing your life, and skip doing ANYTHING, for fear that you might miss something in your kids’ lives.  Or worse, that the kiddos might not really want you to go, even though you need to go for a bit, and then there may be some kid guilt laid on you.

Mom guilt is hard as hell to navigate.  Should you stay, even though you know you need to go and get away, even if just for a bit?  Should you go, and do it anyway?  How the hell do you even know?  Such a mind game!

Let’s be clear.  I think once you have kids, their needs are right up at the top of your list, and while they can be….um, needy… are cool.  And there is absolutely nothing else like raising kids.  It’s the most challenging, scary, awesome thing ever, lol.  I mean, you literally don’t know if you’ve “done it right” until they have left the nest for college….so, HA, the margin for error feels incredibly high!

But while kids and their needs are important, so are OUR needs, mamas.  And it’s okay to actually admit that.  And feel that.  And do things that meet our needs.

And I’m like any mom, I struggle with mom guilt the same as everyone else, yo!  It’s can paralyze you.  It can be easy to just skip doing things because you don’t want to face it and put a higher priority on yourself for a hot minute.

So, here are three things I try to think about when I feel that paralyzing feeling of mom guilt creeps in…….(and let’s remember, I ride the struggle bus here too, so I’d love the things YOU think about when the mom guilt creeps in)

  1. First off, what’s your family schedule been looking like lately?  When our family schedule is crazy, and there is literally somewhere to go every single day of the week, I tend to favor backing off and not adding more chaos to that, whether that’s right or wrong.  I loathe “going somewhere” every day, and I’m learning that our oldest kid needs plenty of downtime at home, even though she likes to do things.  So, I tend to feel plenty of stress PLUS mom guilt when I add more of my own solo commitments on top of a busy weekly schedule.  So for me personally, during crazy times in our house, I actually feel better prioritizing being home more, and NOT doing things.  That’s just me, and of course, some things still need to get done, so lots to consider here.  I love saying yes to things that we can go to as a family, and am more stingy saying yes to things when we have an already crazy schedule, and involves organization of a babysitter during a crazy week.
  2. Secondly, how can you make it “fit better” somewhere in your schedule?  One thing that feels like a luxury lately is solo workout times that aren’t sandwiched between classes and clients in the gym.  So, I can fit in a date with my best fitness friend PLUS get my workout in, if I do it crazy early in the morning.  Sometimes this is absolutely worth it, because I just NEED that time.  Other times, dude, no….I need sleep, lol.  So, where can you fit your stuff that maybe works a little better?  Get creative.  I’m finding that I can wind down a little after kids have gone to bed and before I need to.  There’s been a lot of epsom salt baths lately when kids are in bed.
  3. Third, um….sometimes you just need to go anyway, no matter the guilty feeling that trips you up.  Sometimes, I just do.  Sometimes, I bet, YOU just do, too.  There are just those times, and that’s ok (even though your brain will tell you otherwise for a minute while you are getting ready to leave).

I’m guessing some of this mom guilt stuff feels worse when there are little kids around.  However, I can only imagine that always feeling paralyzed by mom guilt builds a pattern, and soon, when kids are doing things themselves and no longer actually WANT to spend time with you (lol)….that getting out of that pattern of always saying no to yourself will be a hard habit to break then.

So, it’s kind of random to write a blog post when I’m navigating this territory again and not always sure of myself, and giving three pieces of advice, lol.  But at the same time, I know that I’m not the only one who deals with mom guilt, and it’s very present in my life again with a 6 month old plus a 4 year old.  And I’m learning how to find my footing again.  Which is fine.  But dang, it’s always a process!

So, if you feel ANY of this stuff, please add to the discussion!  Let’s work on this, and crack the mom guilt code once and for all (ha!).  Drop me your two cents on mom guilt via comment on my Facebook page, and let’s get this ball rolling.

Three Pieces Of Fitness Advice I Would Tell My Younger Self

You know how you look back to who you were a year ago, five years ago, 10, 15 and want to tell your younger self a whollllleeeee bunch of things that you wish you had know at the time?

I’ve been thinking about that lately, with fitness stuff.

What would I tell younger me about fitness when I was a young punk?  Lots!  It’s actually sort of hard to limit it to just three things, but I carefully sifted through 15 years worth of “stuff” and came up with these three.

It’s three helpful things to consider if you are just beginning to “fitness” or in your early 20’s like I was when I started “fitness-ing.”

You are busy, and so am I, so we are just going to get right into this today, ok?

Here goes.

Find exercise and fitness that YOU enjoy.  You know what makes fitness really damn hard?  Doing things you don’t look forward to doing.  Instead of trying to force yourself to follow training plans and programs and the 21 days to a better butt challenge on Facebook, do things that you can do multiple times per week. Things you like.  Things you (mostly) look forward to doing.  I write mostly about strength training, but guess what?  There are many more things you can do that just lift.  I love to lift, so I always do it, it’s easy for me to do to “fitness.” If you hate it, try other things, and find what YOU love.  What about walking?  What about finding different trails and doing some exploring?  What about low impact exercise like swimming if you struggle with joint health?  You can pretty much make anything fitness, if you find ways to get better at it.  So a few things, find one or two that jazz you up, and do them!

Use exercise and fitness to create a stimulus in your body, and not just to burn calories.  Most people fall into the trap of focusing only on caloric burn when exercising.  Here’s the thing, there is SO MUCH MORE to consider than that, and super important stuff too.  Use fitness to create an endorphin hit.  Use fitness to create a powerful hormonal cascade in your body that helps you preserve or increase your lean muscle mass, and helps you blast body fat.  Be strategic about the amount of fitness you do, so you don’t fall into the trap of jacking up your stress hormones so you are constantly wired and have an out of control appetite to show for it.  The amount of calorie burn isn’t as important as the response you get from the activity.  Logging hours and hours of exercise each week just to show a huge calorie burn isn’t efficient or smart.  Creating just the right stimulus YOUR body needs, in a manner that you can keep repeating, is how you will do well in this game.

If the Kardashians are doing it, it likely could be done better, smarter, or safer.  I know that’s sassy, but here’s what I mean.  Many (not all) the people who we see on TV training celebrities are….well, sorta dumb.  I’ve watched the Kardashians do some really shitty kettlebell swings and follow really weird diets, and also do some things that aren’t safe for the early postpartum periods that they exercised in.  I’ve not really seen them train their body as whole, or do much things that will help them be better humans (fitness-wise AND otherwise, lol).  Celebrity trainers themselves would also be included in this statement – Jillian Michaels and Tracy Anderson come to mind (eyeroll).  Now, Ben Bruno, a well respected trainer of celebrities IS a super smart and productive coach, buuuutttttt I don’t see too many other instances.  And oh by the way, this would include many popular Instagram fitness profiles as well.  Just because someone says they do fitness and post workouts on Pinterest and have tons of Instagram followers DOESN’T ACTUALLY make them good at fitness and knowledgeable about how to help YOU with fitness.  So, it they are super popular, and all in your face about fitness and beast mode, look deeper is what I’m saying.  Look for their experience and education when they catch your eye, mmmmmmkay?

There you go, younger Amanda.  Those are three things I would tell you that would save you loads of time spinning your wheels with fitness before really falling in love with it.

What would YOU tell YOUR younger self?  I’d love to hear!

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